Hello Amazing Human
It's great to ‘meet’ you. What’s your name?
Normally about now on an ‘About’ page, I should be launching into a monologue about who I am and what I do. And hey, we’ll get to that…
But first, I’d like to know a bit about you. What do you love doing? What do you dream about? What’s important to you? What keeps you up at night? Go on, tell me.
Because I believe we could all benefit from a little more connection and I believe talking saves lives.
And that means I want to know about you as much as you want to know about me.
So here’s the thing: I never really knew what I wanted to do. I’ve worked in Copywriting, Corporate Social Responsibility and Internal Communications for some of the world’s best law firms in London and Melbourne. I’ve worked with amazing people and had the honour of making incredible change in people’s lives through the projects I’ve managed. And I loved the impact I got to have.
But none of that ever felt quite right.
Looking back now, I can see that the golden thread was around helping people — helping people to connect, to talk and to share their thoughts and feelings and to have a positive impact on the world, or to be a vehicle to help others so that they could feel heard, listened to, happier, more fulfilled, a sense of belonging, lighter….
And this whole time, there’s been one thing that I can’t shift…
That I am passionate about men’s health. About encouraging men (as well as society) to open up and share their feelings and talk about what’s important to them. Because far too many people are dying by suicide.
And all that culminated in June 2018 when I delivered a TEDx talk titled: 'We need to talk about male suicide'.
So that’s what I focus on now - I raise awareness of male suicide using my lived experience through speaking and writing, and proactive approaches to mental health as a MSc student: Mental Health, Ethics and Law at King’s College London, and encourage children to understand and communicate their feelings as Director of a social enterprise. Increasingly, I am finding myself draw to research and policy in relation to gender discrepancies around suicide and employer responsibility for mental health.
And I do it because I believe talking saves lives.
This means I don’t have a job title I don’t fit in a box and it’s not easy to explain all the things that I do.
But it does mean I get to have an impact in the way that I want, meet amazing people like you. Whether that’s through running workshops or talks for organisations, consulting for business, speaking on panels, studying at King’s College London or through my role as Director of Who In The Zoo.
This is my space to talk about the things that are important to me and to meet new and inspiring people like you.
You’ll hear me talk a lot about (male) suicide, challenging masculine stereotypes, women's role in male suicide prevention and emotional literacy.
Oh and I’ll talk a lot about the sky and the humans in my life because they’re fricking awesome and they make my heart happy. Olympic weightlifting and yoga will probably come up too, as well as the books I’m reading.
As for what keeps me up at night…
(because I think you can tell a lot about a person by their answer to this question) it’s normally a whir of ten different thoughts at once but the theme is always the same. Questioning whether I’m good enough to do this: who am I to speak on these issues? Will anyone want to listen to me?
And that’s not because I don’t believe in what I’m doing. I 100% do. But because self-doubt is deeply ingrained in our psyche and anyone who tells you they don’t have these thoughts is lying.
It’s what you do with them that matters.
My hope is...
that by being honest about how I feel and what’s going on for me, I help create space for others to do the same.
I’d love to know a bit about you.
"The venue was jam packed and people queued to get to speak to Steph after her talk. Huge congrats for having the courage to speak up and share not only your personal story, but the stories of so many men out there”
Mark Leruste, Founder of The Unconventionalists